The Rules for Brides-To-Be

Everyone knows the “rules” for dating that used to talk about what was appropriate for women to do in order to land a husband. Once they get a proposal, however, some women lose their manners and begin to do all sorts of things, from demanding a $2 million diamond ring, to assaulting shop owners who don’t meet their demands. There are definitely some rules to follow when you’re planning your wedding, so people remember you as a gracious bride, not a Bridezilla.

It’s Not All About You

What may come as a shock to many brides is that a wedding is often a time of great conflict as new families come together and want to have a say in the proceedings. To be gracious try to include some of their suggestions, giving a little where possible, but including your own preferences as well.

Don’t Go Over Budget

You have an entire lifetime to spend money after the wedding. If you spend it all to impress other people, odds are you’ll be starting out your married life in debt. A big ring is nice, but so is a nice honeymoon, and/or a new house. Try to balance your future needs as a couple with the present-day urge to spend on this once in a lifetime occasion.

Take a Deep Breath, It’ll Be Over Soon

A wedding is a highly stressful event, even though it’s a happy occasion. Don’t be like a recent couple, and their family, in Detroit that lost their cool and caused $20,000 of damages to a bridal wear shop. Three people were arrested from the bride’s family. While the dress may be a very important decision, there’s no reason to have a mob scene over it. There are going to be tons of decisions to be made to plan the wedding and if you don’t pace yourself, you’ll soon find yourself losing your temper and the happy memories along with them. Instead of wedding album full of smiling faces, you might end up with a couple of photos of Mom and Auntie holding a placard in a police photo shoot.