About 90% of the fun of a proposal is the surprise. However, when you buy diamonds, it can be expensive, especially if she doesn’t like the ring. There’s not much of a return policy and some rings may be hard to resize. There’s no reason you have to sacrifice the element of surprise, however, just to get a ring she’ll love. You just have to take a few things into account that’s all.
What’s Her Style?
If she is more modern, she’ll want a modern setting. Maybe she leads an active lifestyle and will want a setting that can wear more than a gold setting. You have to understand that this ring is likely to be on her finger the rest of her life, and for sure, she’ll want it to match the style in her everyday wardrobe. If she wears very feminine clothing, she may want a vintage, romantic, style ring. If she wears more sporty clothing, she’s likely to want something with a modern flair. If you just can’t tell, you can always opt for the princess-cut solitaire diamond as it is the most popular cut chosen and can look modern or vintage, depending on what you wear it with.
Her Ring Size
Next to style, the ring size is going to determine your choice of ring. If you don’t know her ring size, obviously asking about it is a big tip-off that you’re planning to buy a ring. There’s several ways around this. You can “borrow” one of her rings so that you can get it sized to find out the proper size. You can have friends or relatives ask about her ring size that are in on the big surprise later. You risk sort of ruining it though as the more that know; the easier it is to leak that information. You can get a ring for a different occasion like Valentine’s day, and see how it fits, whether you need to go larger or smaller, depending on what finger she puts it on. Finally, you’re really not sure, be sure to get a metal for a setting that can be resized, like gold. Platinum is very difficult to resize so you need to be careful when choosing platinum settings.
Her Social Conscience
Some people just don’t want a diamond ring unless they’re assured it’s conflict-free. If that’s your girlfriend, it’s easy to find out from the jewelry retailer whether they certify it as conflict-free. Others may want to make some sort of environmental statement by avoiding mined materials, in which case you need to really be sure that what you give her isn’t going to offend her sense of ethics. There is alternative jewelry for people who desire something different. Or, you can opt to give her something that has been handed down from family member to family members, thus more of an heirloom piece than some statement on mass commercialism. Try to match the ring you get to the bride-to-be, but always leave room for changes, if she needs them. In the end, the happier she is with the ring you’ve chosen, the more likely she will wear it everywhere she goes.