Many men believe that because of a lack of money, they can purchase a bigger Cubic Zirconia for the same amount of money as they would spend on a smaller diamond ring. While this may be true, there are a number of reasons why a Cubic Zirconia is not an alternative for a diamond ring. Among these reasons is how your loved one will feel when she finds out the truth and why a real diamond is better than no diamond at all.As mentioned above, the most important reason why a Cubic Zirconia is not an alternative for a diamond ring is the shock and dismay your significant other will feel upon learning the truth. Unless you plan to tell her or unless the Cubic Zirconia was her idea, it is best to stick with a real diamond, even if that diamond is small. No matter how real it looks or how well you plan, she is bound to find out, either through an insurance appraisal, through a friend, or through an avenue that you had not anticipated. That betrayal may be more than your relationship can handle.
Another important reason why you should pick a diamond ring over a Cubic Zirconia is because a small, real diamond is better than no diamond at all. If you take the time to get a Cubic Zirconia that is realistic enough it can pass for a diamond, you are already spending a pretty chunk of change. But, in return all you are getting is an imposter piece of glass. Even when your diamond is small, it is real and it holds its own value should you ever need to sell it or even if you plan to pass it down through the generations.
Similarly, a diamond engagement ring is not meant to just be a status symbol to show that you can afford the biggest and best ring. It is meant to be a symbol of your eternal love and devotion to the person that you plan to marry. This should never be done without the real deal. There is a reason that a diamond is forever and is used as a way to express your commitment to a person that you wish to marry. By starting out your proposal without a real diamond, you may be sending the message that you are not in it for the long haul or that you do not care enough to purchase a real diamond.
A Cubic Zirconia can be a fun alternative to dress up your outfit or add something special to your everyday jewelry, but it should never be used in a romantic way. When you do not take the time to purchase a real diamond, you show that the person does not mean as much to you as you mean to them, which can be the most heartbreaking realization of all. This does not mean, however, that you have to spend your entire life savings to buy the biggest and shiniest diamond as a symbol of your love.
Your significant other knows you and is most likely aware of your financial situation. If they know what you have to spend, they will generally have an idea of what to expect when it comes time to talk about marriage proposals. Therefore, if you are barely making enough to get by at the end of the month your future fiancée will not expect a multi-carat diamond ring. However, if you are making more than enough money to pay your bills, your significant other may be expecting something a little larger than that tiny diamond on the corner.
How you spend your money and what is important to you as a couple will largely determine what size of diamond you purchase for your proposal. The important thing, however, is that you start your life together on the right foot, which means using a real diamond for your engagement ring instead of a Cubic Zirconia. A Cubic Zirconia can be beautiful. It can offer a magnificent shine that would make any girls heart melt. However, while some look as real as diamonds, it is not the way you want to present your relationship to each other or to the world.
This is important to keep in mind and you get caught up in the size of diamonds, how the 4 C’s come into play, and the price tags attached to any diamond engagement ring that interests you. When it comes to diamonds, it is not the size, but the genuine nature of it, that is important. As long as you remember that and do not allow yourself to be caught up in sales talk, you will walk out with the ring that you want and prepare for the perfect proposal.
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October 28th, 2008 at 3:26 pm
Today, many women like myself might prefer sapphires to diamonds. Some would love to have a diamond ring, but might prefer a low mortgage home with furniture or a zero balance on their school loans and will accept a good quality CZ ring set in gold without batting a false eyelash. Ladies and Gentlemen, be honest in what you want and what you give to your beloved. If its a CZ and that is all you can afford, don’t pass it off as a Cartier diamond. Everyone is different, has different needs and preferences. And there are elegant, dignified CZs if you are interested in not breaking the bank and sleeping nights peacefully with your sweetheart. If my husband started picking up behind himself, never lost his keys again and called me from work now and then, that would take me way over the moon. That is what I find romantic: being thoughtful on a day to day basis. If he bought me a diamond, I would ask him to return it and buy new furniture and get the roof fixed. CoCo Chanel once asked: “Are you trying to impress someone or delight yourself?”
October 28th, 2008 at 3:31 pm
Can’t help but follow up with the fact that there are so so many women with substantial diamond rings — in their jewelry box, because those marriages have come to an end. And many happy married ladies with impressive CZs at this very moment planning a romantic evening with their average, can’t-afford-a-diamond, but lovable husbands. There aren’t many of us who have heard of women will left their nice type husband/boyfriend for a man who could give her – a diamond ring.
October 31st, 2008 at 8:11 am
Nice Article
November 3rd, 2008 at 3:53 am
My fiance and I were both college students with a substantial amount of student loans. He desperately wanted to get me real diamonds and I begged him not to for several reasons. First, a lot of women (myself included) are terrified of walking around with such a large chunk of money on their hand. Many are clutzy, or are scared of loss or theft. Second, I would rather have the money to go out on weekends or plan a fun trip here and there than wear a rediculously expensive ring when a cubic zerconia looks the same. Third, I just cannot wrap my head around spending so much money on a rock instead of glass. Cubic Zerconia was my preference, especially with just getting out of college. We were able to compromise. He agreed to put CZ in my ring, if later down the road, when we were more financially sound, he could replace them with real diamonds. This allowed him to get the ring he wanted for me in the size he wanted, give me a few years to get used to wearing the ring and feel comfortable with not loosing or damaging it, and it allowed him to not feel cheap even if CZ is what I wanted. We both walked out of it happy, and I didn’t have to walk around with bubble wrap over my diamond ring until I was sure I wouldn’t ruin it in a clutzy trip. Ladies not wanting real diamonds with difficult boyfrineds who insist on diamonds should consider this compromise.
March 22nd, 2009 at 12:20 am
This article is such crap – take it from me, I bought my wife a 12k ring – after insuring it for 2 years and always afraid of losing it, we decided to put it in a safety deposit box and buy a $100 CZ, it looks just as good (if not better) and it we lose it, who cares? It also is not worth insuring (which we used to pay $200/yr for) … so to this article I say “shut up” – a ring is a silly measure of someone’s love – don’t buy the hype, put the money away for a rainy day and simplify!!!